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A Slap in The Face or A Timely Check?

There's a name, that if someone calls you it, it feels like a slap in the face. And no, it is not profanity. The name is "victim". I am definitely not talking about a "true" victim of some heinous act, God forbid. I am talking about when someone accuses you of being "a victim" or acting like "a victim" regarding how you are handling a situation in your life or handling your life itself. Most of the time we become indignant when this happens. Being a victim definitely translates into the idea of being weak and powerless. Nobody likes that.
It would not be a stranger who says this to you. Perhaps that is why it tends to offend us more. Usually it is a friend or loved one, who has been an outside observer, who more than likely loves you and wants to see you take control over a situation or in your life in general. Regardless of their intention or desire for your good, it probably angers you more than it seems helpful.  Because, real talk, most…

Don't Just Say Your Grace, BE Grace! This Season

In this most auspicious and sacred time of year, so much is going on in every dimension of our lives; mentally, emotionally, spiritually and yes financially.  It is the deepest, most intense time of the year for most of us. It is a concentrated time for being with family and friends which are the cornerstone relationships of life. As always, as we stand at the entrance of this season we will have to confront the interior terrains of our lives. We have to deal with brokenness, disenfranchisement, and a lack of fellowship within our families.  We will have to make tough decisions about who we will break bread with, who can sit at the table, who is uninvited, who is banned and who is damned.  We have to determine whether we will forgive for the sake of the holidays; if we are willing to be in the company of our loved ones; even if we will make up (so that we can get Christmas presents). Many of us have to deal with loss. The loss of our mother, father, child, sister, brother, grandparen…

Life's Big Secret! A Key To Success

There exists a phenomena that is such a huge part of life yet it remains a mystery and secret to most human beings.  It is integral, recurrent, and critical to our living life successfully, but it seems to elude us. It is an intangible and invisible dimension of Life.  We hear references about it quite often, we've all heard it called by name, and yet it remains an enigma to most of us.  I believe that if we fully understood and embraced this very important aspect of life, the quality of our lives would improve exponentially. What am I speaking of? I'm glad you asked. It is called "the process."
How many times have you been going through situations in life and realized yourself or were told by others about "the process" in various ways. You are going through a trial and your supportive community tells you, "oh, it's just a process" you are going through, "everything is a process."  We also are encouraged to "honor the process &…

INTERRUPTIONS: Enter Eruptions

I planned to write about "transitions" today, but something else showed up.  I had two "interruptions" this morning, one woke me up out of my sleep, the other came after my morning devotion, as I was about to begin write this blog.
These were two interruptions of the same kind, but there are two very different types of interruptions in Life. It is an important distinction to know that all interruptions are not the same.  I think one of the most important tools we can get in life skills, is the ability to manage "enter/eruptions", because like the saying; life happens while we are planning our lives.  For many of us, it feels like Life is really a series of interruptions. Our intentions, goals and plans always seem to  get interrupted; at least that is what we explain to others about why we are not progressing as we thought we would.  Well, if that is the case, it would behoove us to not really discern what is happening when we "get" interrupted…

What Is The Music Of Your Soul

Today, during my morning Devotion, I read from one of my favorite books. The author referred to "the Doubter within" as she talked about our inner feelings.  It made me think of our "interiors"; our realselves as human beings; that is, as Spiritual Beings.  A question arose within me, "What is the music of your Soul?"
I know that the Soul is the place in our tri-une Being that represents our Thoughts, Mind and Will.  I speculated that the music of one's Soul must correlate to the tone or quality of one's thoughts. I began to think about my own symphony. If I were to contemplate on the kind of music that my Soul most resonated to, what kind of music would it be? What would yours be? 
Would it be a happy, upbeat tune.  Or would it be a funeral dirge? Would the song of your Soul, that is played most be like the intro to a scary movie... (dum, dum, dum, dummm!) leaving you in a constant state of anxiety, suspense and fear; waiting for something bad t…

A Better Quality Of Life...The Moment!

As I am always reflecting on life, or more so, being "present" to life on a moment by moment basis, the word "quality" jumped up at me; that is "quality of life". I began to think about the fact that we all, every human being on the planet, wants, even yearns for "a better life."  We are actually created from deep within to want more, to want better.  I wondered, though, "what does that really mean?"  
Immediately I heard the chorus of humanity, a definite majority say, of course having a better life would mean "HAVING MORE". Unanimously and loudly they said, first and foremost a better life would happen immediately if I had, MORE MONEY!  Having more money would SOLVE every problem that I have right now.  Hello, everybody "knows" (believes) this!  The reality is that we all know (deep down inside) that it's a lie, an untruth.  We all know people personally and famously (celebrities and such) who testify to the …

Making "Peace" With Your Hair!

I was doing my daily devotional reading and in one of my all time favorite books, the inspiration of the day was on a subject that I have lived for most of my adult life, that is "HAIR".  
Now the author, Sarah Ban Breathnach, whose words I adore, is not Black but she is a Woman, and she speaks Truth.  I believe the language and experience of HAIR transcends race and  touches all women. Unique to Black Women is the fact that we have actually had "to fight" for the right, to wear our God-given Natural Hair, because of Slavery.
I loved the title of her writing, it was perfect. Really there was nothing to add to it, which is how Truth works.  The concept of "making Peace with our Hair", is certainly a woman's reality, especially for women of color. For us "making Peace with our Hair" translates essentially into "GOING NATURAL".  That is, going "cold turkey" from the drugs (perms) and the instruments of destruction (hot comb…